Who and What She Wants: Identity, Ambition, and Integrity

So, who are you?

Really.

Do you answer that question with your job title? I’m a voice actor.

Maybe you answer it with the hobby you pursue. I’m a dog trainer.

Or maybe by what’s in your heart. Maybe you feel really good when you drop a well-timed compliment and see someone’s face light up.

Or by that one quality that keeps coming up for you. Maybe you love solving problems.

But not one of those answers fully captures who you are.

You don’t have to limit yourself. You can be a voice over artist who trains dogs, enjoys sharing joy, and loves to solve problems.

Labels are helpful on LinkedIn, but they can become snares.

Society trains us to shrink ourselves into something simple, easy to understand, and neatly marketable. We strive for job titles that fit perfectly in a headline. We boil down our hobbies to make small talk easier. And we don’t usually proclaim, “I love solving problems,” because it doesn’t sound impressive enough to build an identity around.

But people are layered.

If you limit yourself to just one quality, you box yourself in.

So are you living as one thing while quietly ignoring the other things that make you…you?

Coco Chanel once said, “A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”

“Who” is your character, your values. “Who” is how you show up when there’s no one to clap for you.

“What” is your ambition. It’s the direction you’re headed. It’s the mark you hope to leave on the world.

Too many people focus on what they want to become (doctor, lawyer, seven-figure voice actor) and neglect who they are becoming in the process.

As a voice actor, I try to be more than just a voice. I like solving problems by delivering faster than expected. I aim to be a collaborator who understands the product and the goal of the piece. Someone who respects the trust you’ve placed in me.

My hope is that this first introduction leads to more projects down the line. Meaningful work that fills my heart (even if I’m the only one who knows I voiced it). Work that brings creative fulfillment and fills my cup.

You don’t have to limit yourself. You can build a career and still leave time for your passions. You can be strong enough to defend your pricing and still soft enough to notice when bending a little may serve someone in the long run. You can shoot for the stars and still understand it will take time to get there. You can hold firmly to the values you were raised with and acknowledge there may be new ways of reaching your goals.

It’s about integrity. Vision. Gratitude for the opportunities in front of you, and the discipline to pursue them well.

So if someone asked your title today…

how would you describe yourself?